Lately, there has been so much higgihagga online about a certain married man that impregnated his side chic while his popular wife and their entire relationship/marriage is being dissected to pieces on twitter, Facebook, BBM...everywhere.
O ma se oh.
Cheating is one of the worst forms of betrayal in a relationship and it is very difficult to deal with. It's not as easy as Stay or Go and there are so many emotions the "cheatee" goes through. You can cry oh- e go pain you but make e end there. Here are some things you should not do if your man cheats on you:
In Nigeria if your husband is stingy, it's your fault, if he beats you-it must have been something you said to annoy him and if he cheats? You definitely caused it. Perhaps it the wrapper you tie across your chest that is turning him off, or the weight you've not been able to shed after 4 pregnancies or...your career is getting in the way. My dear, it is not your fault; People are quick to blame the woman-don't blame yourself. Even if you were Olori pretty, most perfect woman in the world, a man that wants to cheat will do so-with even a mad woman.
FIGHT THE OTHER WOMAN
Wetin concern agbero with overload? She's not the cause, just a participant unless she use jazz to hold your man down. Even if na jazz, you should not go and be confronting her but get on your knees and hand it over to your Jehovah Jireh. The person you should face is the one that you had an agreement with. Don't concern yourself with fighting the "other woman" and demanding that she stays off or returns your man (you go think say man na biro wey dem dey carry upandan).
DON'T MAKE EXCUSES
Don't get it twisted. Cheating is a choice. Do not convince yourself that "all men cheat" and so it's going to be one time or the other...."Oh men are built to be polygamous by nature"...Taaaa! Don't say to yourself that men only think with their limpopo-I'd like to give men a little bit of credit-they actually have sense. Don't excuse nonsense behaviour because truth be told, if you flip the script, your guy go don bail immediately he's aware of your infidelity. No time.
STAY IF YOU ARE UNHAPPY
A cheating spouse can cause the other person to crase-can emotionally drain, can cause low self esteem, can increase your blood pressure, can give you nyamayama diseases aka STD's, can disgrace you, can cause anger issues, can make you suicidal...yes, it can kill you. If you're depressed and you decide to just "hang in there" ...you're doing yourself more harm. You only have one life-don't let someone's poor choices and selfishness (cheating is selfish) take away the joy of living.